For example, she might be flipping her phone face down, angling her phone away from you, or putting new passcodes on all her devices. This also includes dodging questions about what she’s doing on her devices. Just keep in mind that your girlfriend shouldn’t have to tell you everything she does on her phone or online.
It’s best to talk to your girlfriend to find out if there’s a good reason for the late-night texts, such as a new job promotion that requires more responsibility. Start a conversation by saying, “Wow, a text at midnight? It must be really important. Is everything okay?”
It’s perfectly okay for your girlfriend to like and comment on people’s photos. It’s only a reason to worry if she’s suddenly really focused on one specific person. Start a conversation by saying, “Brent seems cool. Where did you meet him?” or “Is Brent one of your friends from school?”
“I’ve noticed you’ve been going to the gym lately. Are you working on any fitness goals?” “You’ve looked amazing every day this week. Any reason you’re dressing up?” “You’ve been on quite the health kick lately. Wanna go running together this weekend?”
Start your conversation by saying, “I really miss having fun with you. Can we talk about how busy your schedule has been?” You could also say, “I know you’ve been busy lately, but it’s hard to go hours without hearing from you. Is there a reason you can’t text me more often?”
It’s worth considering other reasons you’re being intimate less often. For instance, she might be working more or could be coping with a medical condition, like depression.
You might say, “I’ve been totally faithful to you, but your accusations worry me. Is there something you’re not telling me?” You could also say, “I’ve never cheated on you, and I never will. Can we talk about why you feel suspicious?”
For instance, she might feel like you don’t listen enough or she might want you to text her more. This doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong, and it’s not okay for her to cheat.
As an example, she might think you’re stuck in a boring routine as a couple, but a new person is making her feel excited. This may be a reason for cheating, but it’s not an excuse. It’s never okay for someone to cheat on you. If you think your girlfriend might be bored, reignite your spark by trying new things. Take her on some fun dates!
“I’m really afraid of being cheated on. Can we talk about it?” “Lately, I’ve noticed something different between us, but you’re so important to me. Can we talk about what’s going on?” “I’ve noticed you have less time for me lately, and it seems like you’re on your phone a lot more. Has something changed?”
“Lately, I haven’t felt like a priority to you. I really miss the connection we used to have. Have you noticed any changes in our relationship?” “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed really distant lately, and there’s a lot of new stuff happening in your life. Is there something I can do to help us reconnect?”
It might be hard to see it now, but you will feel better in time. Right now, focus on spending time with people who care about you so you get the support you need.
A therapist can also help you work through your worries about your girlfriend cheating if you’ve been cheated on before. Your therapy sessions may be covered by insurance. Just check your benefits.
